Marissa from Love Is Blind answers burning questions about Ramses, including their dates after the split

Love is blind star Marissa George knew she had dropped a bombshell when she revealed that her and ex-fiance Ramesses Prashad hooked up after calling off their engagement.

“I’m sorry. Who hasn’t slept with an ex after a bad breakup?” Marissa, 32, shared Us days after Wednesday, October 30, the reunion began streaming. “We obviously had real feelings for each other. We broke up and there were a few times we hooked up. I never intended to say that (at the reunion), but I’ll always just be myself and it shows there – I don’t think about the image and what people will think. I’m not the only one who has ever done that.”

The revelation came when Marissa was talking Nick Dorka about his breakup by Hanna Jiles as Nick pointed out that Hannah messaged him after their breakup.

“I was trying to tell Nick that just because she’s messy doesn’t mean she wants to be with you!” she continued. “Ramses and I don’t want to be together. And we have had contact a few more times. It wasn’t pretty and it wasn’t great and it wasn’t healthy, but it was just what it was.”

Marissa clarified that she and Ramses were not ‘friends with benefits’ or anything serious after that he ended their relationship.

“I was in D.C., I got drunk somewhere — I drank way more than I should have — and I texted (him) and one thing led to another,” Marissa said. “It was only a few times. And we both knew that wasn’t good for us because I still had such strong feelings and he had his strong feelings too, regardless of whether he wanted to be in a relationship or not.”

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Another big moment at the reunion came when Marissa’s mother, Vanessaconfronted Ramses after he made it clear during their meeting that she would not be happy if he hurt her daughter.

“I know it looked rough at brunch when they first met — conversations are happening off camera that you guys don’t get to see, (but) it comes across in a way,” Marissa shared. Us from her wayward mother. “But my mother was also really supportive of Ramses and me. She saw how much we loved each other, at least from my point of view. I think she says at the reunion that she did talk to him and said to him, ‘Hey, you , come figure this out. You both love each other.” I was shocked that she did that, but she knew how much I loved him and wanted it to work.”

However, Marissa added that she wished her mother “didn’t use violence when talking about Ramses,” making a “disclaimer” that violence was not part of her childhood. “I wish she would apologize for the comments about violence,” she said, referring to Vanessa talking about “hitting Ramses in the throat.”

How is Vanessa feeling now? “I think she’s indifferent,” Marissa said. “She’s just very happy that me and him have split up and that I no longer have deep feelings for him. That’s really the hardest thing for me.”

Love Is Blind season 7 is currently streaming. Keep scrolling for more answers from Marissa:

Us: What were your expectations at the reunion?
MG: I was so nervous. I had just seen the breakup scene so I went there to keep it together. I wanted to be able to convey, ‘Hey, it’s been a year, Ramses and I went through everything. I don’t have any hatred towards anyone, but when I got there it was a lot. I just saw (the break) 12 hours ago, so it was really hard to get that out.

Us: Ramses doubled down at the reunion when he said he felt “overwhelmed” by you. How did it feel to hear it again?
MG: It’s still hard to hear, “I would have been exhausted and overwhelmed by Marissa.” But I’ve spoken to him extensively, I know what he means by it. I don’t like it. You said you fell in love with me because of my energy. I don’t blame him though. I can be many things. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that was very clear. So it’s hard to hear. I wish it was something else (that caused our breakup), but what are you going to do?

Us: Are you thankful he didn’t end a wedding?
MG: Ramses would never take me to the altar and say no to me. He knew that would have been terrible. We had talked about it. I wouldn’t have done that to him either. And the whole point is to get to the altar and figure out whether you’re going to say yes or no, but if you’re so sure, it’s best to do it when you feel it.

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Us: Do you think he should have done it sooner or do you think it really took until that day and that conversation?
MG: It took me a while to get to that point where I naturally wished he had done it sooner. But I think Ramses was processing his feelings and the biggest regret he always says is that he wished he had said something sooner about the things he was feeling. I don’t wish he would have broken up with me sooner. I wish he would have mentioned it to me sooner and said, “Hey, these are some of the things.” So then I could say, ‘Oh yeah, those are things I can change, or things I can’t change.'”

Us: Did the conversations about your past military service play a role in your breakup?
MG: The military talks never played a role in our breakup. I think it’s okay to be with a partner who has different views. It seems like he judges me very harshly. And I think he was involved in that conversation – not intentionally, but he just was. But no one else gets to see the rest of the conversation. I know Ramses and I aren’t the first couple to have a conversation where we disagree and we both say things that may not be very nice to each other. Would I now be with a partner who had such strong views against the military? Probably not, no. It just wouldn’t make sense to me. But at the time it wasn’t something we thought was fatal to our relationship. We felt like we respected each other’s differences and ultimately he was supportive of my background.

Us: What about your disagreements about contraception? It felt like you had more to say at the reunion.
MG: I think Ramses ultimately said what he said in those conversations. And no matter what it looked like, it was what it was. I always wanted to make it clear that he never directly forced me to use birth control. He didn’t tell us to do that. And I was actually the one who said, ”I would go for birth control – not hormonal birth control.’ That’s why you hear me say, ‘I need to talk to my doctor. I don’t really want to go through with it, but I want to look at my options because I should have the right to look at my options even if I don’t want to do birth control. For example, let me make that decision.’ And he was completely open to that. We were talking about vasectomies. Nobody knows that – we’ve talked about looking at that in the long term.

Us: So if he says he’s not trying to give you any ultimatum, do you agree?
MG: No, it wasn’t an ultimatum. It was a shocking conversation, but it was not an ultimatum. Two people who come together and don’t know each other very well will have to have difficult conversations and sometimes you just don’t say the right thing, or you have a bad image. It’s just a relationship, it won’t (always) look nice.

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Us: Overall, it felt like there was a disconnect over physical intimacy – and the conversation about how much he needs you and how tired you were from a long day. But from your perspective, was that a big deal breaker or difference between you, or did the cameras catch you on a day off?
MG: The cameras caught us at the wrong time. Look, that conversation, I was angry. It’s very clear that I’m irritated. I say, ‘What are you talking about? We’re super intimate.’ it wasn’t just about intercourse, it was about affection of all kinds. So when we talked about the “petting” he just wanted to know what that would look like. I hated that we had that conversation. I didn’t feel like it was fair because I wasn’t feeling well and all that other stuff. But at the end of the day, that’s the conversation we had. And at the time I didn’t see it as a big deal breaker. But if you go back and look at it, when you look from the outside, you see things very differently when you’re inside. There are a lot of emotions and in that scene I’m very quiet and trying to work things out in my head.

I have an autoimmune disease. I treat flare-ups and rheumatoid arthritis. I also have ADHD. I’ve had it all my life. I’ve talked about it a lot and I get overstimulated sometimes and when we were talking about the petting – sometimes if we’re running late or there’s just a lot going on I’m like, ‘Can’t you just, like, rub me ? You can put your hand there, that’s fine, but don’t rub me at those times.’ Medical matters are very sensitive to me. So when we talk about intimacy, the medical stuff comes into play and I always worry, ‘Is the partner I’m going to live with okay with me having flare-ups and not wanting to be intimate and struggling through my week? ‘ before I start my menstrual cycle? That is a real concern for many women.

Us: Do you think Ramses is the type of man who could be a supportive partner at such times?
MG: I think he would try, yes. I think he would try to be a supportive partner as best he can. What I teach is about the level your partner can handle in general: emotional, physical, whatever. So when he’s dealing with his own emotions and gets overwhelmed easily, he already got overwhelmed with me. I don’t know if he would have been okay with my flare-ups and stuff like that. He would have tried. …He’s not an evil person. He’s not perfect either, just like I’m not, and you see real people having real conversations and trying to decide if they’re going to spend the rest of their lives together. So of course it won’t always look great.

Us: So if you had to pinpoint it, what’s the number one thing that’s keeping you guys from being able to work?
MG: I’m here for commitment – ​​I’m going to commit. I’m going to work on it and try to evolve with you. And I think that Ramses, because he was married before, has a little less tolerance and (thinks): if I don’t feel this, I don’t feel this. I think he just walks a little easier than me. And I don’t necessarily know if that’s a bad thing or a good thing, but ultimately I think that’s our incompatibility. I’m willing to say we’ll hold out. We will get through this and I accept you, despite all your flaws and all. And I think for him it’s very conditional. There are conditions there.